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February 21, 2008

What I like about you

Filed under: Uncategorized — Bwandungi @ 1:54 am

I used to think about marriage. It was so depressing because I believed every one of the points below. Then I met someone who contradicts everything that I was expected to believe about romantic relationships.

I guess this is to encourage the girls out there who are still waiting for love to come knocking on their door. I can’t say it’s going to look like my dream-come-true but hopefully it will be something that reminds you that you deserve to get what you want out of life.

I’m using the 10 things men hate about women from our beloved New Vision.

NO doubt that men heartily love women. However, there are 10 basic things about women that irritate men.

-Men do not like women who pretend. Men believe that women should stay themselves and give up every attempt to seem better.

Every day I’m encouraged to be better than I am. Our motto is that if we strive for excellence it will come to us. It doesn’t mean that we are pretending. We take care to speak clearly, use new vocabulary, educate ourselves, etc.
-Men hate it when their women criticise other females. It is a proven fact that women often treat other women as rivals. But remember that a woman will gain no popularity with men if she continuously criticises other women’s dresses, shoes and handbags and also their compatibility with each other.

The fabulous thing about my partner  in life is that he understands women at their core and he is able to recognize wickedness. Often times he’ll warn me about some women I make friends with because he sees their black hearts.

-Women’s jealousy exasperates men. Jealousy can break even the strongest relationship. It shows that one partner does not trust another or feels insecure. Trust is the basis of a strong relationship.

A little jealousy is always helpful in making one of the partners keep their game tight. You have to keep on your toes if you understand that at anytime a woman/man whose game is tighter than yours can come onto the scene and sweep your partner away!

-Men do not like to be treated as an emotional support. They get irritated when women always demand caresses and hugs, when they want to be treated special.

My Dad gives warm hugs every time I need one. Even in the company of others if I sidle up to him and put my arms around his waist, he’ll continue his conversation, but make sure he hugs me back. My brothers are the same way. They’re more huggy than my sisters are! LOL! So of course I expect to be cuddled and hugged for extensive periods of time and you know what? I don’t ever have to ask for a hug. I get them all the time because he knows I like them.

-It is no good for women to employ the speech code in relations with men. When women employ the ‘What are you thinking about?’ speech code they thus hope to pump real feelings and emotions out of men. When a woman asks a man this sort of vague questions she expects to catch him unawares and learn what his feelings toward her are.

He likes those kinds of questions because he knows I’m not trying to trick him and it always generates interesting conversations. Sometimes he’s not thinking about anything at all, to which we laugh and I tell him what I’m thinking. It’s the kind of question that generates conversation which is what people look for in each other.

-Some women want all the spare time of their men to be devoted to them only. This is some sort of interference with men’s privacy. At the worst, women start spying on their men, asking relatives and close friends what their men are doing. They also ransack men’s pockets and desk drawers in search of some evidence. Women must not behave like proprietresses.

He has never made me feel like he does not want to be around me. We enjoy his activities together. We enjoy my activities together. When we have spare time, we’re enjoying it together. It’s not because we’re trying to monitor the other person’s movements, but we love being with each other and sharing life. Otherwise there is no reason to be together. Might as well be friends with benefits.

-Women’s emotionality makes men absolutely mad. Unlike women, men are sure that broken nails or touching films are not a trouble at all. Males do not love it when their partners burst into tears or fly into a rage on every trifle occasion.

No one is delighted with another person’s tears, that is crazy. My partner understands that touching ads make me tear  up. He understands that someone else crying about something makes me cry, he understands that when I’m ecstatically happy (yes, even that!) I cry. He’s okay with it because he knows me.

-It is universally known that men hate women’s never-ending shopping. Men generally believe that 24 hours in a day are not enough for women to enjoy shopping, to have an opportunity to touch and try on everything they find. Men find it the most terrible ordeal when women insist they accompany them during shopping.

Women never stop shopping?! Damn! Where have I been? I get so turned on when he’s picking out fresh veggies and talking to me about the next exciting dinner he’s going to make. When we went to pick out stuff for our space it was so exciting and special because he got to pick his own shit! I picked my own shit! We’re as happy as pigs in shit! LOL!

-Women’s talkativeness irritates men. A women’s brain easily conceives every minute detail while men do not like to listen to trivial details.

Huh? What the fuck does that mean? Of course men love trivia. They know all the minute details of sports personalities and details of cars they like. My man. Every detail of an interesting story is essential to it’s telling. He’ll make me tell it over and over again! 

-Women have a sure leverage to demonstrate their superiority over men. This is sex which is the most powerful weapon in the war between males and females. Women deprive their men of sex in an attempt to punish them. But this may, in some cases, have lamentable consequences for women.

I have nothing to say about this one. My sister reads my blog! 🙂 I will say nobody gets punished at our house for any reason whatsoever. 



  1. Are those your parents in the picture? Nice shot!

    Okay … maybe your guy is just good at not expressing his negative frustrations. It builds up, and then tumbles out badly. I kind of agree with most the points from the NV, yet I’d certainly do as the guy in question does. Weird like that.

    Comment by The 27th Comrade — February 21, 2008 @ 5:19 am | Reply

  2. No. My parents are cute!

    So, because I’ve got a self aware man secure enough in his masculinity to realize the whole “bear in the cage” myth is a load of crap, he’s not good at expressing his negative frustrations? 🙂

    Believe me, when he’s frustrated. I know.

    Comment by imnxtac — February 21, 2008 @ 4:31 pm | Reply

  3. Haha, 27th thinking those are the zyees. Haha.

    Comment by tumwijuke — February 22, 2008 @ 7:29 am | Reply

  4. I like this G…
    or should i say Imnxtac

    Wait, i finally get it…

    Man, took me a while!

    But this one is till the cows come home!

    Comment by Mr. B2B — February 22, 2008 @ 3:34 pm | Reply

  5. @Tumwijuke! I know, eh! LOL! Maybe we should post one of them. Hehehehe.

    @B2B what do you finally get? And why you call me G? And where were the cows?

    Comment by imnxtac — February 23, 2008 @ 6:17 pm | Reply

  6. Oh ok G
    I call you G coz on Tumwijuke’s, you use Gloriyah…
    G is like the first letter

    i finally get (I’m_in_XTC) that took me longer than usual…

    and yeah, this post if discussed amongst a few other peeps i know would end when the cows come home!

    that clearer…???

    Comment by Mr. B2B — February 29, 2008 @ 5:40 am | Reply

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